Tuesday, July 10, 2007
i totally agree with this
What would you do to get attention from your other half? Somehow you're starting to feel neglected. Why is he paying less attention to you? Is he very busy with other stuff (school, family, etc)?
Don't, whatever you do, whine, nag or demand that he spend more time with you. There is nothing as unattractive than a clingy, nagging girlfriend. So no temper tantrums, please. You might just get his attention - but it'll be the wrong kind of attention.
First, try to find out why he is not paying you as much attention as before. Could it be that he's worried about upcoming exams? Maybe he's having some family troubles? Maybe he's just too tired from football practices? Don't be confrontational. Instead, wait until he's in a relaxed mood and then remark casually: "I miss us spending more time together. Have you been busy?" He'll probably be flattered that you noticed and will talk to you about it.
But don't be worried if he just mumbles: "Don't know. Don't want to talk about it." Maybe it's a small problem he prefers to work out on his own. So say: "Okay, you know you can always talk to me if you want to" and leave it at that.
Don't get too hung up on wanting his attention all the time. Remember, if the less time you spend with him, the more "me" time you get to do things you want, like pick up rollerblading or going for girls' only nights out.
This is something I got from bestselling relationship book, Why Men Marry Bitches: "A strong woman has her own identity and is secure with who she is. She is plenty happy giving him 'space' because she enjoys having hers… That's the woman he dreams of marrying."
Posted by Endless_lov3 at 2:24 PM